When I feel uneasy, disturbed, conflicted, I observe how I am showing up compared to what I value. I ask, “does what I think or say or do align with my values?” If I value kindness, did that cruel belief or thought reflect kindness? If I love those who look more like me more than those who don’t, am I coming from love?
In living true to my values, there are ongoing issues and situations that create conflict between my inner life and outer doings. The cost of misalignment is confusion, heaviness, and lowered self-esteem.
So, when I feel uneasy, disturbed, conflicted, observing inner conflict helps me to better understand the incongruity between my inner and outer life. I recall Gandhi’s wisdom, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Then, I move on.